and the time went by…

We often don’t realize the pace our lives move on with, exception for a rainy night or a silent dawn. Thing change, friendships turn to acquaintances; or a mere ‘thank you’ favor-terms; we live and let live; we go and let go!

Starting the blog was more of a passion about year ago. Inspired by Irnustian.com; and more about owning a place to speak out; humkhayal came into existence. Things were different then; they are different now! Success had a different definition, terms had different criteria, passions were not so passionate. The grip on life was perfect, but on its players not so well. Distractions were less distracting and mind never got tempted by “the body pump”. Was it fun? or is it the real adventure?

With going low on a profile but higher on many others, stagnant on a few and confused on the one which is most important for a normal being! But hold on, when was I one! Never…. Since the school age the boy was different, not like the usual lot of his class, not with the similar interests his ‘co-actors’  had; and the difference kept on growing wider and wider. And then came up the social media, the much famous “eff-book” .  Things got weird at times and less on occasions!  But it never got normal and the time went by…

Weird

I’m weird! A complex composite of moods and reactions that happens to be contradicting and contrasting! I’m the gin… crazy… workaholic… mad… everything a normal being is not! And I don’t differ with the opinion much but the perspective! Yes! The entire way how u look at me decides the person I’m. My position is not judged by the actions I do but the reaction u give. The ball was never in my court, the ball never is.

This was not me! I was lively… I was happy… I was fun. I was the one I do not reflect anymore. I do not blame the state I went through or the eventful life I had, but my own choices of response to each situation I was pushed in to, each challenge that was thrown at me and each chapter of that I closed myself. I don’t regret but cherish these options that I decided my fate myself! Not everyone is lucky enough to make his own ways work!

Tommy Tale…

Funny it is how we start with something as a casual response; someday gets so important that it encircles our lifestyle. We never know when our responses turn to addiction and the reason we do things that way! Whole of my childhood I had been eating a particular ice cream flavor, which the every other person I met, never thought tasting, and one day all of a sudden in an ice cream parlor of this confused city I found the person next to me ordering it. I felt glad! I found a company! And yes this had been something I were looking whole of my childhood. Someone to accompany me with the same ice cream flavor!

This might be silly but this is how we behave in our lifestyles. We enter a a new a class, new office, a task with a different aim. In order to make the journey comfortable we socialize. With passing time, these acquaintances turn to friendships, and then to relations. One or the other form of a company! A friend, a mate, a companion or a brother!

I have always been very fond of me being a social *animal*!  (not because my dearest friends call me tommy =p) I enjoy interacting, understanding, compromising with people and getting misunderstood, loved and appreciated in return – a mix of all sentiments I enjoy. These respond me in a way that I don’t blame, I don’t claim! I rather relax and wait for the return. And never have I been disappointed with this approach.

Dedicated to a friend who needs to read and realize 🙂

Please do not read this

2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads This blog is doing awesome!.

Crunchy numbers

A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 1,700 times in 2010. That’s about 4 full 747s.

 

In 2010, there were 36 new posts, not bad for the first year! There were 29 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 9mb. That’s about 2 pictures per month.

The busiest day of the year was August 1st with 91 views. The most popular post that day was We are changing.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were facebook.com, irnustian.com, en.wordpress.com, xehra.wordpress.com, and google.com.pk.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for syeda rabab zahra naqvi, hassan javed khan, rabab zehra naqvi, syeda rabab zehra naqvi, and syed arsalan ahmed.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

We are changing August 2010
3 comments and 1 Like on WordPress.com,

2

Leaders July 2010
2 Likes on WordPress.com

3

Tribute to the Leaders August 2010
1 Like on WordPress.com,

4

About June 2010

5

10 reasons i don’t go for relationships October 2010
1 comment

Problem starts with P…

problem… passion… post… promotion… past… present…  pessimism… privacy… protocol… purity… poverty… power… plagiarism… progress… permission… pact… perfect… personal… professional… pagan… pain… pair… paisa… palace… pale… partner… panic… piracy… proctor… proper… plan… prosper… perception… protection… politics… plastic… pledge… people… predator… prediction… prognostication… pawn… poor… protest… pressure… poisonous… priest… prince… population… public… playing… pass… professor… physics… polymer… purchase… procurement… page… policy… part… penalty… penny… percent… performance…  pricing… pharaoh… phone… polarity… portray… polynomial… position… posting… praise… press… pretend… prevent… prisoner…. private… prophecy… profit… prohibition… provoke… purpose… process… president… : P

Pakistani Women – Pakistani Pride

Rich are the societies where both the genders contribute through a difficult past and in challenging present, towards a better future. Pakistan has been much richer in feminine contribution towards social progress. Be it politics, social work, education, literature, bureaucracy, music or daily life. Pakistan owes several distinctions with women in leading roles outside their homes, through their achievements and recognition. The post is a tribute to feminine efforts towards a social change. These notable women have a long list to share, but three of them are cited here:

Ra’ana Liaquat Ali Khan (wife to Liaquat Ali Khan, social woker, ambassador, bureaucrat)

• First Muslim woman ambassador and Doyen of the Diplomatic Corps (while in the Netherlands),
• First Muslim woman Governor (of Sindh province in the mid–1970s),
• First Muslim woman Chancellor of a university (all the universities in Sindh)
• First Muslim woman delegate to the UN, and
• First Muslim woman to win the United Nations Human Rights Award,
• First Muslim woman to receive the Woman of Achievement Medal, (1950).

Bapsi Sidhwa (Author, novelist)

• Bunting Fellowship at Radcliffe/Harvard (1986)
• Visiting Scholar at the Rockefeller Foundation Center, Bellagio, Italy, (1991)
• Sitara-i-Imtiaz, (1991, Pakistan’s highest national honor in the arts)
• Lila Wallace-Reader’s Digest Writer’s Award (1994)
• Premio Mondello for Foreign Authors for Water (2007)
• Inducted in the Zoroastrian Hall of Fame (2000)

Begum Amina Majeed Malik (educationist) aka “Baji”

• First Muslim Lady to win Gold Medal in Matric and Intermediate in 1928 and 1930
• A consultant to the ministry of education for from 1952-1954
• Founder Chairman Of The Idara-I-Yaadgar-I-Ghalib
• Founder PECHS Girls School, Karachi
• Founder PECHS College, Karachi

10 reasons i don’t go for relationships

May be a real come back after two months n ten days. Talking to a  high school junior and seeing her situation in to what world calls “relationships”, reminds me of this topic and 10 excuses which make me run away from them:

1. Possessiveness: Things are great till you are friends but they disappear when u start labeling it “A RELATION”. Most sagas start and end here. Sad! huhh! 😛
2. Freedom: I value my freedom! My life, my way! I want it to continue as long as it could!
3. Time: Ok fine! do you got really that time to think and text your U-KNOW-WHO! Sorry i don’t! I have a long list of  to-be-done things.
4. Formalities: I like things the way they are. not they way someone expects them to be! Why be what we are not? Why do things special way?
5. Dialogues: Ok yes! I’m not good at it! I can’t say 3 words in a variety of ways! Deal with it 😛
6. My Mom: I know my supreme court got no second appeal! So better do out of court settlements.
7. My Dad: “Better options are always there and we can see them better than you do” 😀 I love u dad 🙂
8. Memories: Oh yes! The crappiest things about it! even if you r out of it, your r never out of your past! there are reminders all life.
9. After Effects: Once it ends, things are never the same! You are never friends and there’s a long silence and complete absence.
10. A Quote: “You can’t get anything except for getting hurt”

Old is Gold

With outburst of private channels and lacking of creativity and true depiction of society, we have started recalling old good times of one angle camera and and one channel screen. Much missed are PTV transmissions and scripts adorned by wonderful acting, perfect direction and amazing lyricist and great singers. Here is a title song of a PTV classic! No doubt… old IS gold!

Faraz’s Poem

 

قربتوں میں بھی جدائی کے زمانےمانگے
دل وہ بے مہر کہ رونے کے بہانے مانگے

ہم نہ ہوتے تو کسی اور کے چرچے ہوتے
خلقتِ شہر تو کہنے کو فسانے مانگے

یہی دل تھا کہ ترستا تھا مراسم کے لیئے
اب یہی ترکِ تعلق کے بہانے مانگے

اپنا یہ حال کہ جی ہار چکے لٹ بھی چکے
اور محبت وہی انداز پرانے مانگے

زندگی ہم ترے داغوں سے رہے شرمندہ
اور تو ہے کہ سدا آئنہ خانے مانگے

دل کسی حال پہ قانع ہی نہیں جانِ فراز
مل گئے تم بھی تو کیا اور نہ جانے مانگے